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"He
has to see on his own behalf and in his own way the relations between
means and methods employed and results achieved. Nobody else can see
for him, and he can't see just by being 'told,' although the right kind of
telling may guide his seeing and thus help him to see what he needs to
see."
--John Dewey
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can a coach help you walk out the truths that you believe? Call Life
Ascent Coaching at 719-330-3123 or email marc@lifeascentcoaching.com
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The Secret
of What You Believe
Many of my
clients ask me to help them achieve success at a high level, but what I
find is that they do not believe this success is possible. Their
core beliefs tell them "no, it is just wishful thinking to believe
that one day _____________ (fill in the blank)," When we
talk in-depth about their life situation, the arena where they desire this
new level of success, I find that their approach is more superstitious
than anything else. Let me explain.
We all have grown up in a world that is unpredictable, uncertain,
capricious, and dangerous. As children, we adopt a system of
thinking, called a paradigm or worldview, which is designed to factor out
as much of the uncertainty and danger as possible. The problem with
this is obvious-- there is nothing that we can do to control the
world. The beginning of realizing steep, forward progress,
personally or professionally or both, is to identify these beliefs that
color the world we live in.
The secret is to identify your core belief structure. This is not an
easy task, but you can begin to do this by following these steps:
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Ask these
questions of yourself, then record your answers in a personal journal
or daytimer: 1. What belief about my job led me to pursue
this career? 2. What belief about the opposite sex led me
into my current marriage or significant relationship? 3. What do
I believe is the purpose of my life? Why am I here?
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Ask a friend
to answer these same three questions for you, what they believe you
would answer, then record your answers in a journal or daytimer.
Choose a friend who is not afraid to tell you the truth.
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Next, answer
this question: if I could do anything and be guaranteed that I would
not fail, and resources were not a concern, what would I do (answer in
75 words or less)? Then, answer this question: what will it cost
me emotionally, transformationally (changes in my character,
motivation, etc.), financially, and spiritually to place my highest
pursuit at the top of my list?
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Finally,
write your goal on a transparency (you can also use clear plastic wrap
by taping it down as you write with a sharpy marker). Keep the
goal simple. For example, "Spend significant time with my
teenage kids over the next year," "Increase profits in my
business 30%," or "Organize my life toward 100%
order."
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Then, place
the transparency over the answers to the questions above. Though
it sounds like a strange activity, what I have found happens with
clients is that they find new connections between their goals for
success and their belief structures. A deep, forward-leaning
motivation is ignited when you see the connection between what you
believe and what you are working toward. Adjustments in your
worldview are now possible. You will find yourself changing
because you now see the connection between what you want and what you
believe. Try it, then let me know how it works!
----Marc
Fey, 719-330-3123, marc@lifeascentcoaching.com
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